Congratulator: This your first marriage?
Me: Barring tragedy, it's my only marriage.
C: [Knowing chuckle] That's what we all say.
So how would you respond to someone who implies that your marriage is disposable? Besides kicking them in the nethers, which is my first impulse, or the equally socially unacceptable and office-innappropriate method of preaching about your beliefs on marriage and divorce and how once it's done you're pretty much stuck with each other, because you know you're not marrying the type of person who would ever provide you with Biblical grounds for divorce? I'm looking for something slightly more clever than my actual response, which was pretty much to stare in disbelief with a polite grin pasted in place and laugh in that fake way you do when something is absolutely not funny but you still feel obligated to pretend otherwise.
People make me sad.
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Yikes! That's... weird. Really weird. And pretty offensive. I can't believe people are actually saying that to you!
Most of those people are cynical, because their lives have been full of disappointment.
I know that feeling. My husband's uncle cornered me at a family function before we were married and had all these disgusting comments accompanied with sly winks about premarital sex. We had only just started to date and weren't talking about marriage, much less having sex. I was horrified, but I just ignored him.
Sometimes, I don't even think offensive remarks deserve an answer.
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Grr. I had a comment all typed up and it never showed up. Bad Garni!
Anyway. I'm sure I've seen Miss Manners advise saying something like "I take my wedding vows very seriously" or "I don't find jokes about divorce very amusing". A scolding, but honest.
Who would say such a tasteless thing anyway!?!
Right?! Who SAYS that? Cheebus.
Miss Manners' advice looks good. Though I'm still favoring a swift kick in the nuts.
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