He settles the childless woman in her home as a happy mother of children. —Psalm 113:9

December 21, 2010

So angry right now.

So apparently all of the long-term care facilities that the hospital applied to for Rob have refused to take him, the reason being that he's only 57 and doesn't need enough care.

Let's break this down: He's only 57, and he looks like he's closer to 80. This in itself should be a clue that the man is not in good health.

He's diabetic and needs daily insulin. He has emphysema and has to be constantly hooked up to oxygen. He takes meds for both of those conditions as well as hypertension and schizophrenia and who knows what else. And yes, he's schizophrenic. He doesn't even know what all meds he's taking, and there's no way he'll be able to remember to take them on his own. And even if he could, he's stubborn enough to not take them on principle when he starts to feel better. He eats crap that he shouldn't have when he can get away with it. TWICE in the last month and a half he was taken by ambulance to the hospital in the middle of the night, the first time because he collapsed into a diabetic coma, the second because he had internal bleeding, of which they were unable to determine the cause.

How much care does someone have to need in order to merit admittance into a nursing home?

We can't take care of him. His own doctor told us that we're not capable of taking care of him, that he needs too much for us to handle. His own doctor, who has cared for him for years and knows his history, says that he needs to be in a nursing home.

Ugh, you guys. I'm so disgusted right now. Bottom line is, Rob needs prayer. Prayer for doors to be opened, that a solution will present itself, and provision will be made for Rob. And Matt and I need prayer that will keep it together and handle this situation in a Godly manner and not go postal all over these bureaucrats.

I mean, can you believe this crap?


Cynthia Thorp said...

You can get him into a nursing home. There have been residents at the place my mother works who have been bearly 30 when they arrived. I realize this is going to be a lot more work for you guys and for that I'm really sorry. Talk to the social worker at the hospital. If that won't work then check out your state's health dept. website - they list all the nursing home, usually by county. If your step-father isn't on medicare get him on medicare. My grandmother was able to get into a private home and medicare paid for it. Either medicare or medicade . . . not sure which. Another option is see if your area has an office of the aging. They'll have all the nursing home information, okay so your step-father isn't quite retirement age, but they don't need to know that. You'll just be there gathering information.

A question for you. The places the hospital applied to, did you go there yourselves or did you just depend on the hospital? If you didn't go, go to the homes and talk to the administrators. Sorry, I live in an area where I wouldn't just the hospital to properly apply a band-aid let alone file paperwork this important properly.


jmbauhaus said...

Thanks for the info, Cynthia. The hospital social worker told us that, since we're not blood relatives, as long as we leave everything up to them they're legally responsible for Rob, and that if we step in we'll basically be claiming financial responsibility for him and his care will be entirely on us. So we've been leaving it to them. But it looks like we might have no choice but to take matters into our own hands. I've got some contact info for some state agencies that might be able to help us figure our our options, so hopefully I'll have some better news tomorrow.

Cynthia Thorp said...

If he's getting any kind of state aid that would help pay for his care. Also, is he getting social security or disability? Same applies.

I understand, a little, why the hospital is trying to help but there is something wrong with the applications because your step-father ABSOLUTELY is eligible for either a nursing home of assisted living facility. Like I mentioned before there are several residents at the home where my mother works who are not only under the age of 50, but under the age of 40.

Hope the new days brings better news.

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